It’s OK to Lose Your Parenting Mojo

It’s common to have parenting highs and parenting lows.
It’s also common to have parenting seasons.

I know for me, I can go through stretches where I’m on form…present, playful, tuned in. And then other times, I’m under my metaphorical rock... craving quiet... only crawling out for essentials like making dinner or offering a cuddle.

Is that wrong?

I don’t think so.

I think what really creates suffering is the belief that we should have our parenting mojo switched on all the time.

That we should be calm all the time.
Present all the time.
Patient all the time.
Joyful all the time.

But that’s not real life.

No one is happy all the time.
No parent is perfect all the time.
No child is well-behaved all the time.

We are cyclical beings, just like the seasons.

“All the trees are losing their leaves, and not one of them is worried.”
— Donald Miller

Whether you’ve got a baby, a strong-willed toddler, a tween who’s suddenly eye-rolling everything you say, or a teen who barely grunts in your direction… one of the most important things you can do is be real with yourself.

To honour how you feel. To acknowledge your current energy and needs.

Not to push it down. Not to pretend you’re fine.

In his paper Magic State of Acceptance, Dr Michael Hall shares how accepting your current circumstance is not the same as giving in. It’s about welcoming it into your awareness — so you can respond more effectively to it.

When I read that, it changed the way I viewed myself during those “under the rock” moments.

We can’t be in peak summer energy all year round.
We’re not meant to be.

There’s something valuable in the quieter seasons. In the downtime. In the retreat.

It’s where we re-gather. Re-root. Reconnect to ourselves.

So if you’re in a moment where your parenting mojo feels far away… that’s OK. You haven’t lost your way. You’re just in a different season.

Let yourself breathe there.

Because, just like with nature… nothing blooms all year.
And yet it all still grows.

If your parenting season feels like it’s been “stuck on winter” and you’re craving connection, confidence, and calm — let’s talk. The Stressed to Best Parent Method is built to support you through real life... not ideal life. You don’t have to be perfect — you just have to be willing.