What Oprah Reminded Me About Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids

Last Thursday night I got to see Oprah with my friend Marija. An early birthday pressie... thank you Marija!

Oprah for me is someone I have so much time for. A woman of colour who leads with heart and presence. There aren’t too many leaders in the world who hold that kind of power with such depth and integrity. So to be in her presence was a gift.

As I sat there and soaked in her words, it wasn’t just my mind taking it in. I felt it. A full-body yes. That’s what Oprah calls it. It’s something I never used to notice... but now, it’s what I trust the most.

Last week, my eldest son and I were chatting about his next steps. He’s navigating a big decision, and like most of us, the noise of expectation can creep in. I reminded him of the same thing I remind myself...

You already know. You just have to listen.

Not to the mind chatter... the spirals of shoulds and what-ifs. But to the whisper underneath. The one that feels calm and grounded. The one that brings a quiet kind of clarity.

That’s the whisper Oprah talked about, and the one she listens for every day.

My mentor Lisa Messenger once shared that she makes business decisions based on intuition 98% of the time. She built a magazine that went to 37 countries with zero publishing experience... but a whole lot of inner knowing.

It was that same inner knowing...that same feeling in my chest..that led me to reach out to Dr John DeMartini. That whisper wouldn’t leave me alone. And now, he’s endorsed my book.

Here’s the thing...our kids already have this ability. Especially under the age of four. They twirl without wondering if it’s good enough. They sing without worrying who’s listening. They haven’t yet learned to doubt.

And our job, as parents, is to protect that knowing. To help them keep that connection to their intuition by reconnecting to our own. That’s why I designed the Stressed to Best Parent Method the way I did...so that we can raise kids who stay true to themselves by modelling what it looks like.

Because the world doesn’t need more people following the rules. It needs more people following their truth.

Oprah asked us to sit with two questions:
"What do I really want?"
"What would it take to serve the energy of the soul?"

I think they’re the same questions we need to ask as parents.
What would it take to raise a child who stays connected to their inner compass?
What would it take to raise a child who trusts what they feel and who they are?

It’s not the way most people parent.
But it’s the way I want to parent.

And if you’re here, I know it’s the way you want to parent too.

P.S. If you're ready to raise a child who stays true to themselves, even in a world that constantly pressures them to conform, the Stressed to Best Parent Method shows you how. Book a free call and let’s explore what that could look like for your family.