Finding Your Tribe
Yesterday I ran a workshop as part of a mum’s camp at a hospice. It was both a privilege and an incredibly humbling experience. Each of these mums has a child who is dying or a child who has recently passed away. No-one can truly understand what these mothers endure without having walked a similar path.
They carry a unique set of joys and an unimaginable weight of sorrow. Yet during our time together, what struck me most was how deeply they understood each other.
They understood what it was like to be on edge every time they checked if their child was still breathing.
They understood what it meant to wake up several times each night to turn their child over to prevent bedsores.
They understood the exhausting balance of caring for multiple children, including those with complex needs.
They understood.... all of it.
Together, these mums had found something rare and precious. They had found their tribe.
“A tribe is a group of people connected to one another, connected to a leader, and connected to an idea. For millions of years, human beings have been part of one tribe or another. A group needs only two things to be a tribe: a shared interest and a way to communicate.”
― Seth Godin, Tribes: We Need You to Lead Us
The 5 Pillars of a Strong Tribe
1. Openness
These mums weren’t trying to put on a brave face. They were real. They spoke openly and vulnerably about their hardest moments. It would be nearly impossible to have those kinds of conversations with people who hadn’t experienced something similar.
2. Trust
There was a deep, almost unspoken trust. They trusted each other with their emotions, their truth, and even their darkest fears. They knew they wouldn’t be dismissed or judged.... only supported and held.
3. Connection
Out of openness and trust comes true connection. A sense of belonging. Of being seen and understood. There is both dignity and vitality in genuine connection.
“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
― Brené Brown
4. Honouring the Individual
Even in shared experience, each woman was honoured for her unique path. Comments like “You do what’s right for you” and “Don’t let others dictate your journey” showed a respect for personal truth.
5. Common Purpose
Every tribe has a reason to exist. These women are united by the desire to be the best version of themselves.... for their children, their families, and themselves, all while navigating the complex journey of raising a medically fragile or special needs child.
“The world is so empty if one thinks only of mountains, rivers and cities; but to know someone who thinks and feels with us, and who, though distant, is close to us in spirit.... this makes the earth for us an inhabited garden.”
― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Why This Matters For You
Whether you are navigating grief, overwhelm, or just the everyday intensity of motherhood, you need a tribe that supports not only where you are.... but also where you’re going.
When you surround yourself with people who uplift you, who challenge and honour you, who walk the path with you.... you stop feeling like you’re parenting alone.
And that’s why I created my signature program. It’s not just about learning tools or changing behaviour (though you’ll absolutely get that). It’s about finding your way back to yourself and being surrounded by a tribe that truly gets it.
One mother recently said, “I’ve been to counsellors, therapists, psychologists, and parenting educators.... and none have been able to help me the way your program has. It’s connected me back to me. Life is so different now.”
Ready to find your tribe?
The Stressed to Best Parent method can help you, let’s walk this path together.
