How Changing My Beliefs Transformed My Family and Work Life
Could you be closing yourself off to aligning family and work... without even realising it?
A few years ago, I never imagined I could grow my business to where it is today and have the quality of time and connection I now share with my husband and children.
Back then, I used to believe...
I had to work relentlessly to grow my career
I had to catch up with friends every weekend
I had to make home-cooked meals every day
I had to have an immaculate home
I had to throw regular parties and dinners
I had to volunteer for everything at my children’s school
My children had to attend every birthday party they were invited to
My children had to do sport on the weekend
Because everyone around me was doing this, I thought it was the only way. I didn’t question it... I just kept going.
Today, I believe something very different.
I can expend less energy and create more impact
I can enjoy quiet, social-free weekends with my family
I can take shortcuts on meals (hello, meal delivery service three nights a week!)
The dishes can wait if it means an extra cuddle with my boys
I can host gatherings only when it brings me joy
I can volunteer for the school activities that align with my strengths
My kids can choose which parties feel meaningful to them
My children can follow their genuine interests — whether or not that includes weekend sport
So what changed?
I started questioning my beliefs.
Confirmation bias is our tendency to look for and interpret information that supports what we already believe. It keeps us stuck in old patterns — even when those patterns no longer serve us. It also leads to overconfidence in outdated beliefs, which can block us from making better, more aligned choices.
What if the beliefs you hold about work and family are no longer true for the life you want to create?
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” – Albert Einstein
Today’s parents are time-poor, energy-depleted, and facing a level of pressure no generation before us has experienced. The always-on culture, endless expectations, and deeply ingrained stories about what a “good parent” or a “hard worker” should look like... they’re all adding up.
No wonder so many parents are feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, and questioning everything.
But here's the truth: you can choose differently.
You can challenge inherited beliefs. You can write new rules. You can define success on your own terms.
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